Part 1: Finding Freedom In Chaos
From the moment we start observing the world around us, we subconsciously collect beliefs, expectations, and societal norms that have been passed down for generations until it becomes our comfort zone. But here's the unravelling of the uncomfortable truth- what if life wasn't meant to be lived by rules that no longer serve us? What if the real journey lies in unlearning everything that limits our experience of this beautiful life?
Maybe we're not supposed to figure everything out.
I feel like we have this habit of justifying every action, every decision, and every relationship, you know? We try to analyze people's behaviors toward us, and I've done this so many times- taking things personally, as if understanding everything will bring me peace. But maybe life isn't meant to be so carefully dissected. Maybe the magic lies in the unknown, in the surprises, and in surrendering to the flow. I mean, not having all the answers might be the very thing that makes life so breathtakingly awesome, right?
Maybe we're not supposed to make everyone happy.
I had grown up believing that love means giving endlessly, often at the cost of our own well-being. And maybe you've felt that too at a point in your life, right? That feeling where you blur your boundaries, thinking that prioritizing others will somehow fill the void you feel inside. But what if love isn't supposed to be a sacrifice, at all? What if we're meant to have healthy relationships with people who love and understand us- not perfectly, but willingly? I 100% believe love should be a reciprocal energy, not a test of endurance. It is strange how we sometimes measure the depth of our love by how much of our energy we are willing to give away. And maybe we were never meant to carry relationships that don't carry us back to the source, to ourselves. :)
Maybe we're not supposed to be happy all the time.
Feeling happy has become this ultimate goal for everyone, as if any other emotion is simply a failure. I am not sure if this is due to a lack of understanding in handling other emotions or if we simply believe those emotions exist to ruin the situation, while happiness seems to make everything better. But I feel all emotions are important to feel, and they can improve situations as well. Whether it's anger, jealousy, or guilt- any temporary negative emotion, once fully felt and navigated, can add depth and ultimately make a situation better. Also, what if the full spectrum of emotions is what makes us human indeed? The fear, the pain, the heartbreak, the rejection- they're all part of the same tapestry as love, joy, and success. I've started to understand that love is a state of being, but emotions like anger or sadness are fleeting visitors. They're meant to be felt, acknowledged, and released, not suppressed or judged. And maybe that's the most human thing of all, don't you think?
Maybe we're not supposed to live life like a race.
It often feels like we're sprinting toward some invisible finish line, measuring life by milestones, achievements, and how much we've "figured it out." And honestly, I've caught myself doing this so many times. But life isn't a task to complete. It's a slow, intricate dance. The moments you laugh until your stomach hurts, the nights you cry yourself to sleep, the spontaneous trips, the failures that reshape you, and the quiet mornings where nothing happens, yet everything feels right- this is life, right? Not the destination, but the journey itself.
Maybe we're supposed to just live.
I feel like we're supposed to trust the universe, even when life doesn't go as planned. To move through the hard phases with grace, knowing that nothing is permanent. To stop trying to mold life into what it "should" be and instead embrace it as it is- imperfect, unpredictable, and endlessly beautiful. Because maybe we were never meant to have it all figured out. So my last thought for you is- what if you were put here to enjoy this life and just..be, my love? :)